Re-write your sexual story: moving beyond the ego during sexual intimacy
The human ego is not equipped for the challenges we face with sexual intimacy. When it comes to sexual encounters: the Ego is our Challenge.
The common theme here is… our ego is telling us what we should think/feel about sex. Instead of being present in the moment, we are filtering the experience through past beliefs or cultural messaging. As long as we are having sex from our ego, we are missing out on truly connecting…
You know all those stories about sex and sexuality. You’ve been tolerating them for years. These stories come from Ego and continue to exist due to Ego. It’s the number one obstacle to sexual intimacy.
Ego is how our old, automatic and unconscious behavior patterns show up during sexual encounters. It’s the ego’s fears that get in the way of speaking up authentically during an unwanted sexual encounter… it is the ego’s fear that has us hang on to old partners, has us repeat old patterns. It is the ego that suppresses our sexual energy and has us numb out during sex. Ego keeps us from boldly claiming our sexual identity as a spiritual being having a human experience.
This is the “ego” that wisdom traditions both east and west have concerned themselves with for millennia.This ego is the combination of masks we wear to represent ourselves in life.
How much emotional energy do you waste on ego’s demands for your attention? Ego distorts what we see. Its agendas distract us from staying focused on what’s most important. Its irritations and preoccupations can be relentless.
Ego has us believe that sex is just about performance – and with that brings all the anxiety and pressure we put on ourselves for taking too long to climax, or not getting to orgasm at all. The pressure to please our partner and wondering if we were good enough.
These patterns of Ego behavior during sex are so deeply ingrained in us that it doesn’t occur to us that the challenge is actually the ego. So we continue to tolerate the elephant in the room…
But there is another way…
You can access your essential self – that is connected to ancient sexual wisdom. In this course, you will learn how to loosen the shackles of your ego and embody your essential self, your soul.
Whether you’re single or partnered – we invite you to join Rewriting Your Sexual Story, a revolutionary four month coaching experience.
In Rewriting your Sexual Story, you’ll discover:
The most essential internal shift we can make is the shift from making love from ego – with all its limitations, blind spots, defensiveness and drivenness – to connecting beyond ego. This is the path of embodied spiritual practice for our time; the path toward overcoming the illusion of separation.
In this course you will discover that the perspective you engage in sexual intimacy from is a choice. Making that choice will radically enhance the quality of your relationship.
Rewriting your sexual story will change how you experience yourself, others and the world. Your willingness to face everything and avoid nothing in these three domains of relationship can transform both your love life and your spiritual life.
A core truth about beyond-ego sex is that you cannot fake it. For the ego this is scary. For your essential Self, your beyond-ego Self, authenticity is a giant relief – no more need for pretense.
You do not need to repeat your past sexual interactions. This course will show you the way to re-wire your brain to have the experiences that you actually want. You can’t change what happened in the past, but you can create a new future.
How our personal history shapes us
What is a sexual story and how it came about.
Why most people keep repeating the same experience.
What beliefs are driving you?
How our culture shapes us
What messages did you get?
How religion shapes us
The messages that you received.
Messages about Desire and Desirability
Messages about Pleasure
Messages about Worth
Messages about Sex & Spirituality
Messages about Love & Trust
Messages about Shame & Guilt
Sex as biological/spiritual urge
New Story Prompts for Westerns
Principle One: Surrender
Principle Two: The Body
Principle Three: Altered State